Victims Of Overthink


I haven't been blogging much recently, for a number of reasons. The main one is I've been busy. There's been stuff going on in my life outside of work that has taken up a fair portion of my time. There's all the usual stuff - washing up, housetoil, food, shaving - the constant, and unceasing tidal wave of maintenance that a life involves.

Sometimes life is what it is, and there's not a huge amount of thinking that needs to happen to survive. Stuff happens, events take place, and it's often because life marches on. There's a danger to overthinking life. Stuff happens. People are making this life up as they go along, and often an inconsequential and trivial event that lasts two seconds is worthy of about two seconds thought, not twenty minutes, or an hour. It really is that straightforward. because life moves fast, and there's always something else about to happen. If you don't enjoy something, remove yourself from it, change it. Fix it.

If someone doesn't text back, or doesn't answer the phone, they're busy doing something. It is in no way a reflection of you - unless they ignore you for say, a year.

If you pick at a scab, it will always be a scab. Yes, people say and do stupid things, things that are thoughtless, or there and gone in a second, and basically, let those things go. Let us concentrate on the now, and the here, and the going forward. The past is important and it made us what we are today, and it sould not be forgotten. But you cannot change the past, only the present, let us work on today and the future. And whilst those who fail to learn from the past are doomed to repeat it, those who obsess on it lose the fact that the here and now is happening right now, and the present is slipping away.

So let's be clear. I don't play games. I say what things are and am upfront about it. I say what I mean and I mean what I say. When you play games, someone loses, and I am not interested in that.

A deal is a deal. A commitment is a commitment. Adults honour their responsibilities and honour their word and fulfil their duties - even if tehy don't want to do it. My life is full of things I don't want to do but have to do. It's what being an adult is about. People say thinsg change and try try to alter or welsh out of their commitments whilst expecting me to honour mine. Things change. Maybe I should also change what I see my commitments are. I don't want things to get hard, but fair. I will accept what I feel is fair, even if its not what I want.

Stuff is going on around us. Life is busy and fast and happening. I have a million demands upon my time, a large fist of duties and I try to please everyone and I end up pleasing no-one and failing everyone. I try my best and that is all anyone can do.

This is an interesting but harsh article about it.
- posted by Mark @ 10:26 am